Before he left the train, hipster dude went up to a woman and told her to lose weight. Alison, who saw the victim burst into tears after vaguely Macklemorish dude swaggered off, pens an angry Missed Connection that you shouldn't read if you're prone to vapors:
I asked her what you said---and in between sobs she goes, "he said 'Have some respect for yourself and lose some weight'".
Oh shit, you said that to a complete fucking stranger, an innocent person trying to read a book on her ride home!!! Yeah dog, you sure did, and then you turned heel and walked off like the miserable coward you are.
You publicly humiliated another human and made her cry. How truly fucking horrifying of you. She was totally stunned, and devastated. . .is that what you wanted to see happen? Are you that much of a nightmare that you are PLEASED by making people cry? Total strangers even? I don't think I can fully express to you what an absolute skidmark you are, but here goes:
Jezebel has a copy in case the original goes away.
Via Steve Annear.
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But was she taking up two
By Gattaca
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 2:17pm
But was she taking up two seats?
You know what?
By anon
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 3:10pm
All the times that I've had such idiotic fat hate directed at me (and I am an extremely average size 12 woman), it is because some jerk WANTS an extra seat for his balls and, somehow, by sitting in a SINGLE seat ... I am the one who is "fat".
This has happened MORE than ONCE.
So ... stuff it. Just cram it.
Rudeness knows no gender.
By anon
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 8:17pm
Rudeness knows no gender. Plenty of people take up extra seats they don't need -- putting their feet up, etc.
Seriously. What is going on.
By angrydroid
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 2:19pm
Seriously. What is going on. The past few months I've noticed everybody just hating on everything. Is it the long winter? Is it some sort of moon phase? Is it the economy or all the political BS? Comment threads are getting worse and worse. I feel it in my bones. Even I've been feeling like a jerk lately, though I highly doubt I'd stoop as low as this. But I am sure some jerk will come in here soon enough and set me straight with a reply to this telling me how it's all Obama's fault or I'm not enough of a townie or something like that.
Vitamin D
By someone in cybe...
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 2:48pm
its low vitamin D levels. Look it up. We've had such a crappy winter and people have been in doors and in sun light.
I had my checked in january. It was so low that the doctor put me on a script immediately. Guess what? 2 months later I am no longer a crap and a total a$$hole to deal with now.
Its very common for extreme low vitamin D3 levels to effect mood. It's also very common for these levels to be very low in northern states (where winter time sunlight is fairly limited)
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/reading-betwee...
Hmm. I'll look into that.
By angrydroid
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 3:13pm
Hmm. I'll look into that. Thanks.
OK, I'll be the one to tell you....
By merlinmurph
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 3:28pm
Sorry, but you really are still a total a$$hole.
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OK, it's a joke, it was just hanging there and someone had to say it.
Have a great day.
I guess you are correct.
By cybah
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 3:32pm
You would be correct.. since I was a total asshole a few months ago on here ;)
(yes i wrote that comment.. )
It's spreading like a virus...
By MatthewC
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 8:20pm
I see and feeel it too, everyday. It seems that people in our society are becoming less and less capable of controlling their emotions and handling themselves in a civilized manner. There is no way to have a disagreement that doesn't devolve into a screaming match, or possibly even violence, anymore. Case in point: last month I was walking to work and slipped and fell on an uncleared sidewalk on Bunker Hill St. I should have been able to knock on the door and have a level headed conversation with the repsonsible party. Unfortunately, nowadays, I have to presume that I'll be met with a hot headed mouth foamer who will act like it's a declaration of war. We live in sad times, indeed.
I hope
By Jo
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 2:22pm
hipster dude is absolutely perfect and unblemished himself. He must have extremely low self-esteem to cause him to act like that.
I would think a ridiculously
By chaosjake
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 3:35pm
I would think a ridiculously unbridled, overdeveloped, high sense of one's self esteem would lead to those comments more than low self esteem. Or did I miss something?
No Way
By Lando
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 4:27pm
When you are happy with yourself and not insecure, you don't need to take others down a notch. People often claim that it's women who are so horrible to each other, but I have frequently witnessed young men who feel the need to put women in their place, especially overweight women who have the gall to seem like they are happy with themselves.
No. Low self esteem makes u
By anon
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 4:42pm
No. Low self esteem makes u judge. If u felt good looking and successful would u say what he did? Nope
Mind your own damn business
By brianjdamico
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 2:31pm
What a jackass.
"a wacker version of Macklemore"
By fenrefer
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 2:30pm
As a daily user of Stony Brook, I can say that if the 'feminist vigilantes" do a thorough job, they are going to be reminding a lot of 30ish white guys who look like a wacker version of Macklemore of their insignificance over the next few days... Fortunately this 30ish white guy is balding.
I don't know what's worse the
By anon
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 2:33pm
I don't know what's worse the manner-less douchebag or the drama queen begging for attention on the internet over some other person's awful experience.
Thanks!
By Scratchie
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 2:53pm
I was wondering how long it would take someone to insult the person who stood up for that woman. Thanks for coming through in record time.
standing up by encouraging vigilantism?
By anon
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 3:11pm
She gives a vague description - 30 year old white male "hipster" and repeatedly (in the post and on twitter) advocates vigilantism. That's inciting violence against a particular group. And no, the fact that the "group" are white men doesn't make it excusable.
An internet rant is not "standing up" for someone, nor is encouraging vigilantism "standing up" for someone. And when you tweet your "missed connection" post to Jezebel, to promote it, you are most certainly seeking attention.
They didn't stand up for the
By anon
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 3:13pm
They didn't stand up for the woman. They wrote an attention whoring post which will never be read by the perp or the victim.
Standing up for the woman would have been chasing the douche down and giving him tongue lashing.
Standing up for the woman
By Scratchie
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 3:40pm
Like you would have done, I'm sure, if you had witnessed it.
The guy insulted the woman and then got off the train
By Sally
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 3:48pm
so no time for tongue lashing, clearly.
Give the guy a break
By Brian Riccio
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 2:35pm
he's obviously the only guy at the start up who can't afford Uber!
Don't Smear Macklemore
By anon
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 2:35pm
The guy is totally NOT like that.
See all those Grammy photos? He's hanging close with his pal Mary, who is gorgeous!
"Look out for a"
By anon
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 2:44pm
"white dude, around age 30, who looks like a wacker version of Macklemore"
This is to Cambridge as this guy is to South Boston. He knows every local custom; he'll blend in; disappear; you'll never see him again.
Brilliant deduction, Watson, but there's just one fatal flaw ...
By adamg
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 2:49pm
Stony Brook is in Jamaica Plain.
Kinda works, though
By Miss M
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 3:02pm
Since all the Wack-lemores who got priced out of Cambridge moved to JP.
You obviously dont live in JP
By anon
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 3:29pm
You obviously dont live in JP, its very expensive now as well.
Still a bargain compared to Cambridge.
By Sally
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 3:52pm
We have fewer good restaurants and bars, fewer students, and more green space, fixed gear bikes and impressively bearded young men.
Apropos of nothing, can I
By Scratchie
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 4:15pm
Apropos of nothing, can I just say how frustrating it can be to be ahead of the curve?
When I lived in Somerville and Cambridge, wore lots of flannel and didn't shave, I was just a slob. Now I could be a hipster but I've got too much grey in my beard.
To your advantage
By Belmont
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 5:17pm
There must be some way you can leverage your curve experience. Said in Grandpa Simpson's voice: "I was one of the earliest hipsters. They didn't call us hipsters back then. We did have artisan pickles, though. Whatever artisan means."
For Scratchie
By SwirlyGrrl
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 8:35pm
From a fellow "geezster".
Last night's Riot Grrl bike ride? Total bizarroworld.
http://bigego.com/index.php?page=songs&category=Do...
You know the real ass kicker? It is hereditary. If you have kids, be warned.
Yeah
By Miss M
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 7:39pm
Because I have to live in JP to know how much it costs.
Hey, I think I know that Southie guy!
By MC Slim JB
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 4:01pm
No, sorry, I take that back. That really could be any of about a thousand dudes in my neighborhood. The Sox cap and sweatshirt had me fooled for a second there, though.
I enjoyed. . .
By LiamD
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 4:21pm
the Indiana Jones reference, though.
"With any luck, he has the
By Milwaukee Mike
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 4:41pm
"With any luck, he's got the grail already."
Ehhhh....
By MissDee
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 6:55pm
Sad that some loser had nothing better to do than insult a stranger on the T. Also said that said stranger didn't have thick enough skin not to cry or be devastated about it. Sorry, but this is life and you can't let every asshole you encounter make you cry. If you cry, let it be something personal, not from some asswipe on the train.
Not enough ammo
By Billy
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 7:04pm
Too many people just need to be shot.
I'm not convinced this is newsworthy
By Felicity
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 7:56pm
They all sound like Middle schoolers on the school bus.
With luck
By deselby
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 8:15pm
the woman on the train will eat less and exercise more. Could have been a wake-up call.
with any luck
By SwirlyGrrl
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 8:08pm
You will learn to mind your own business and keep your generalized hatred of women to yourself.
I find it amazing, absent a picture, absent any medical evaluation of the woman who was abused by Mr. Tiny, that you assume that the woman had any sort of medically-relevant weight issue at all.
Unless you are a 30-something white male hipster coward on the Orange Line ...
Obesity is a problem in America
By deselby
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 8:19pm
This is true of men as well, so I don't know why you have to make everything into a woman issue.
If this happened at all (could have been a stunt to seek attention), I am presuming that the woman was fat. If the woman was in shape, I doubt she would have broken down crying. Only the truth hurts.
The problem is that people live in their own bubble and can't even look in a mirror.
Self-knowledge is on the road to self-improvement. Sometimes that knowledge comes from others.
The solution for her is simple: eat less, exercise more. That is a win/win situation. She is healthier and happier.
Once again, slowly
By SwirlyGrrl
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 8:21pm
You do not know this woman, and I am assuming that you did not see this exchange. You are not her doctor. You are not qualified to diagnose anything here.
Even if she is obese, that is a matter for her and her medical caretakers. It is not Mr. Rude's business. It is not your business.
As for "making everything into a woman issue", I'm not the one issuing "ratings" of women, nor have I made statements about "booty call gone bad" in order to minimize an assault, nor have I declared half the local population to be ugly as if my opinion mattered.
It would not be my style
By deselby
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 8:27pm
to be giving advice to strangers on the T. But maybe this guy is a doctor and is on a mission to get people to slim down for their health. Maybe he was aesthetically offended.
Once you go out in public, your appearance is fair game for public comment, because everyone has to look at you.
Against medical ethics
By SwirlyGrrl
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 8:46pm
I know. I work with them and I am a professional epidemiologist.
A doctor on such a "mission" could find themselves without a license. That's because professional practice demands that a medical professional examine a patient under proper medical circumstances, run the proper tests, etc. to evaluate a patient's risk. There is also strong debate as to whether obesity is, in and of itself, a marker of risk when lipid profiles, blood pressure, c-reactive protein, blood sugar and other indicators are far more prognostic of medical hazard than a poor statistical predictor or adiposity.
And, no, nobody's appearance is fair game for comment. People - and that includes women - are not there for you to look at, judge, evaluate. Period. Grow the fuck up and mind your own business.
being fat sucks for many reasons
By deselby
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 8:53pm
having been 50 pounds overweight myself, I can tell you it's better to be in shape. You get tired easily, out of breath during any physical exertion. You look like crap.
I was unaware there is "strong debate" about obesity being risky. You better tell the National Institute for Health, epi. They have not got the message about this strong debate. Their website lists many problems related to being fat.
http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/health-topics/topi...
"Strong debate?" Sounds like a rationalization to me.
Strong debate over whether it is obesity
By SwirlyGrrl
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 9:17pm
Or the other disease processes that are associated with obesity AND have very clear diagnostic markers which are ascertained at a very low cost and are much better predictors of disease than obesity - much better predictors in THIN people as well as heavy people.
In other words, you simply cannot tell what a person's medical risks are by just looking at them - it requires a full evaluation.
It is also unclear whether obesity is a cause or an effect. These are important considerations, particularly when evaluating population risk as there are multiple correlations between individual conditions and societal environments (and other risk factors such as air pollution).
Obesity researchers also tend to overinterpret their results relative to what the biostatisticians in the review panels that I run would accept. While those who get a lot of money to promote anti-obesity initiatives will emphasize the disease correlations, those of us who actually have to deal with data know the weaknesses and limitations of those correlations. I have seen grants for studying environmental factors in heart disease rejected because they use BMI as a control for morbidity rather than blood pressure, lipid profile, etc. BMI is a very crude indicator of risk.
There is the added issue that BMI is great for populations, but poorly predictive of individual fat percentage levels in individuals (variation in BMI only explains about 25% of the variation in actual fatness - in most epidemiological investigation, this would be considered to be uncorrelated). That's why one needs to do a formal evaluation.
At age 47, I can pick up a sixty pound kayak, lift it overhead, and portage it a quarter mile. That kind of brawn comes with lean mass, but it means that even at the peak of fitness (as in when I was a rower and had 12% body fat) I will register as statistically overweight. I also have very low LDL, and very high HDL (genetic) - but you wouldn't know that by looking at me or my weight. That is why looking at someone or even calculating their BMI is a poor way to diagnose anything.
not talking about "overweight,"
By deselby
Thu, 03/20/2014 - 4:29am
talking about land whale obese.
Is there any question this is bad for you?
Saved for posterity
By Bob Leponge
Thu, 03/20/2014 - 3:58pm
Says deselby:
I don't really have a meaningful comment on this, just saving it for posterity.
Oh, really?
By Brian Riccio
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 8:36pm
Anytime you want to post a picture of your Adonis like physique, I'd be interested in seeing it.
I could lose 10 pounds, sure
By deselby
Wed, 03/19/2014 - 8:41pm
and I will, because I have self-discipline and the willingness to exercise.
I once got fat myself, worked at it and took off 40 pounds. If someone had called me a fat bastard at my peak weight, I'd have had to ruefully agree.
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