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The crying woman on the Orange Line, part II
By adamg on Fri, 03/21/2014 - 12:30pm
A couple days ago, we considered an incident at Stony Brook involving a fat-shaming doofus and the woman he made cry.
A man who says he also watched the incident unfold explains why crying lady wasn't exactly Miss Innocent, that, in fact, she had been subtly tormenting the guy and an older woman she sat between from Downtown Crossing all the way into JP.
This woman proceeded to play her Nintendo DS, not with earphones on but with the system speakers set at a selfishly loud volume. To me this was becoming surreal and potentially escalating to a point of intentionally provoked confrontation. She seemed to be deriving great satisfaction from the discomfort she was causing those around her. If there was ever a way to instigate confrontation on the subway she was doing a great job. The gentleman to her right, no longer able to contain himself, said "Can you please turn that down?" To my utter excitement ( I admit it, I had front row seats and this was pure entertainment) She TURNED THE VOLUME HIGHER like a defiant, petulant child would, to purposely anger him. Subsequently, as though it couldn't get worse she physically shoved both her elbows into her neighbors in a blatant show of further undeniable violation of personal space.
Alison, who wrote the first post, replies (Note: That will bring up a copy stored here on UHub - seems somebody keeps getting the Craigslist version deleted).
Via Boston Reddit.
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ZOMG!!!111
DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA!
Really our commutes on the MBTA are bad enough already without this juvenile reality TV style B.S. getting publicized and promoted.
Pathetic
I'm not sure what's more pathetic. The amount of comments this story is generating or that I can't stop reading every. single. one.
This "victim" sounds like a real jerk!
A woman shoehorns her ass into a seat on the orange line.... You won't believe what happens next!
Doesn't excuse being a misogynist asshole
So they are both jerks. It doesn't justify his assholery one bit.
Time for all the special young snowflake babies of the baby boomers to grow up.
Misogynist?
No basis for this assumption, at all...
How do you know that the "insulter" would not have said the same thing to a male "personal space violator"?
Mindreader, perhaps?
because they don't
Men do this to women, whether it's reported to Reddit or not. They typically don't do it to men and if they do, it's more of a confrontational way instead of whispering in her ear so she is shamed and doesn't feel she can be in a public space without being cowardly attacked. These guys know that if they did it out loud, there's the potential for someone to defend her. This way, they don't get confronted and they diminish her self esteem and trust in the rest of the people around her (no one defended me!). Neither is accidental. And it is misogyny because it is telling her she doesn't deserve to be in public unless she fits what he considers to be the allowable shape for a woman. He might have been more inclined to do it because of her behavior (which makes her an asshole too - just a different kind) but he's indicated he's that kind of guy and would have done it to someone anyway (nor was it his first time).
How do I know this - I got sick, went on medication and gained a lot of weight quickly while this was being diagnosed and figured out. I was walking an hour a day, working out 3 times a week minimum and eating at most 1200 calories a day (part of being sick). Very upsetting and disorienting on it's own. But if I went into a public space or god forbid, ate in public, I was whispered to as well. And I wasn't playing on my nintendo either.
If you want to know someone's true character, look at how they treat clerks, waiters, and people heavier than the norm. Eye opening.
He didn't whisper it in her ear
He flat out said it that the male witness heard it.
You people sure do have a low
You people sure do have a low bar for misogyny these days.
You people?
Who is "you people"? Do you think the post with a silly accusation of "misogyny" was written by a committee of some sort?
Well, it is an improvement
The poster is forced to admit that women are actually people, even when "othering" assertive women.
Now he just needs to actually treat women like people. What a challenge!
I just said you people to see
I just said you people to see what kind of funny stuff you would say. Just another microaggression the oppressed have to face each and every day.
Amen to that
Amen to that
misogyny, you keep using that word
It does not mean what you think it does. It means "hatred of women."
It does not mean "confronting a person who squeezes two people by forcing their way into a seat not big enough for them, whips out a video game and plays it loudly, and when asked to turn it down, turns it up even louder."
tldr version: confronting someone for extremely anti-social behavior is not automatically misogynistic because they're a woman, just like a woman who confronts a man for something they're doing is not automatically being misandric.
So you were there?
And you witnessed this woman "forcing" and "squeezing" into a seat?
Or are you taking the testimony of the person who decided that she was too fat to be in public as an authority on fitting into seats?
It was written by some other
It was written by some other witness, not the guy involved.
testimony, lol
So apparently the testimony of the first original CL-poster is more reliable than the other person? They're both...anonymous...craigslist...postings.
Or are you being sexist, and attributing one specific poster's comments more honesty because she's a woman? That there is misogyny and sexism against women does not mean that in one specific case, this particular woman is more honest or trustworthy.
How about the people on reddit and here who recognized the woman from the description of her behavior and described similarly asshole-y behavior?
OMG PATRIARCHY PENIS CONSPIRACY!
You people like to use the word mysogynist as a crutch.
Stop being such a useless bitch.
Stop being....
... someone who flings about unnecessary invective.
The true jerk
is the women who wrote the original post on CL. She tried to turn a confrontation between two jerks into a one-sided issue.
Maybe she was in town early
Maybe she was in town early for the anime convention.
Jerk
So, you can use your weight to be a jerk, but nobody can be a jerk to you back. Right. Got it.
Indeed
Psychic trauma begets psychic trauma. News at 11. She deserved to feel some amount of discomfort based on how she acted, if the observer's recounting is to be believed. I don't really care how it was delivered. He didn't punch her in the fat roll, he punched her in the mind. She actually elbowed him in the chest. Point goes to the gentleman, I believe.
On fat-shaming and rudeness
While I despise to my core with the heat of a thousand suns rude and ridiculous people who exhibit the type of behavior described in the original rebuttal (the woman sitting on people, playing her game loudly, turning up the volume to antagonize), none of that gives someone the right to fat-shame her.
I agree completely with the original poster's rebuttal - the comment about losing weight is not constructive, has nothing to do with her rude behavior, and only serves to be mean and belittle her. It's about making her feel like shit about herself for being overweight, period.
I have no problem at all calling people out for rude behavior on the train, in fact I do it often (to no effect of course) myself, but there is no call for bringing weight into the matter.
"shoehorns" her bulk ...
More like "she sat in a seat when some pinhead asshole wanted to air out his balls" and got fatshamed for it.
I have a very average sized ass and have been called a "fat bitch" because I wanted to sit in my seat and have that seat to myself and not share half of it with a male stranger pushing me aside to bro sit.
Of course the obvious retort is: If I'm fat, then why are you the one who thinks you need more than a seat?
Note: this has happened far more than once. Women who insist on not sharing their seat with a man who doesn't fit or thinks he "needs" that room are "fat".
And what was the offense of the other passenger...
... the older lady, who also was reportedly crushed by the sit-down-in-the-middle, noisy-game-playing, sensitive soul?
If it was a debate then yes,
If it was a debate then yes, attacking her weight does not anything to the argument. It only seeks inflict some type of pain without any argument teaching what is wrong.
However, this wasn't a debate. It was some type of conflict where both sides allegedly were trying to just making each other day worse. You can almost say it was a battle of malice, but going from this Craigslist post, the person bringing up fat said it as a way to bring a negative consequence to her allegedly hostile actions.
You're right this would not make any argument. But then we have to take account that plenty of actions from sentencing law (despite much is structured to rehabilitate) breaking to merely grounding a child operate on the same idea. None makes any argument why an action is wrong, it just sets that so-so bad action means you get pained in some way.
Well said!!!!
This piece of writing is brilliant! I would love to buy a drink for the guy who made the initial comment as well as the guy who penned this!
Crazy shit
From this story it sounds like the lady might have had some mental health issues, with which these two tough prideful Bostonians seemed to have none too much sympathy at 5:20 pm. Makes me glad I don't ride the T anymore during rush hour, quite honestly. As far as this one line from Alison's reply to the reply:
I've definitely seen people, both male and female, comment on the weight of obese males in a derogatory way. Although it's still not nice.
My response to Allison:
My response to Allison:
It's NEVER OKAY to play your video game on the T without headphones. Never, ever, ever. Next to nail clipping, un-headphoned music is one of the cardinal sins of public-transit riders.
Yeah, two wrongs don't make a right, but knowing both sides of the story, I'm almost ready to applaud that man's parting remark.
ETA: It seems that music was through headphones, but they weren't doing much good.
How do you feel about people
How do you feel about people who pick their new ringtone on the train..slowly, loudly, listening to each and every preloaded sound.
They should be thrown in
They should be thrown in front of said train.
^^^^ That's exactly how I
^^^^ That's exactly how I feel about it!
You know what?
The trains themselves raise a deafening clatter - why does any of this matter?
I am noise averse, and yet I manage to use public transit without fat-hating and without incident.
I also travel by rail and plane a lot and stay in hotels with less than good soundproofing.
You know how that works? I use noise cancelling headphones and earplugs. Simple.
That's an immature view if
That's an immature view if you mean the people around her should be using headphones. I shouldn't be forced to listen to other peoples music or video games.
How about...
...the idiots who feel they have to sing along (or more frequently, RAP along) with what they're listening to in their headphones? Annoying as f***
I've got one that rivals loud music / video game noise
Eating stinky fast food on public transportation. Not cool, man: not cool. Too many public-transit junk-horfers leave their trash behind, to boot, leaving a smelly echo of their rudeness for later riders to endure.
Can't say I find any of this second-hand accounting of bad public behavior particularly trustworthy, but neither do I find either side of this sorry story hard to believe. A shame more people aren't miserable human beings to strangers. Too bad it's a fallen world.
Wow
That entire story is really, really......uninteresting. The fact that it was originally reported by Boston.com (The Globe) is pitiful.
What are Globe staffers doing trolling Craigslist missed connections? At least do it in secret but as part of their news making/reporting?
Again just , wow.
Dumb people fighting is what a large percentage of our entertainment and now news seems to be.
America. What a country.
http://cappyinboston.blogspot.com/
I have to agree with you.
I have to agree with you. Someone is rude on public transit/someone is rude back. That doesn't seem to rise to the level of the Boston Globe.
Good Point
Given that it's a Boston local news story and not a slideshow this seems to exceed the standards of the Boston Globe considerably.
FYI
The original CL MC was forwarded to the media (Glob, Jezebel, etc) by the psychotic radfem.
Is she pyschotic b/c she has
Is she pyschotic b/c she has mental issues or because she is radiacal or is b/c she is a feminist? Just curious b/c being a radical feminist shouldn't be derogatory.
There's nothing wrong with
There's nothing wrong with being psychotic. Your ablism is disgusting.
The "new" Boston Dot Com
Remember this is "The New BDC"...
This is also the same website that gives is "10 most popular burger places" or what Tom and Giselle are wiping their asses with today.
Are we really surprised they sucked up this story and made a big deal out of it?
Expect to see more of this half-ass, lazy reporting on trivial crap like this..
Wasn't originally reported by boston.com
I think Steve Annear at Boston Magazine had it first. Dunno if he saw it on Jezebel or got it some other way. Then I linked to it. Then boston.com linked to it with that stupid headline. Sorry. it wasn't a stupid headline. It was a joke. The reporter who posted the thing for them is still very upset that I am taking that headline seriously when not only was it a joke, they told me it was a joke, and yet I refuse to apologize for being too dense to realize it was a joke.
Ahem, anyway ...
He'll get over it.
He'll get over it.
Cappy's should probably have been the last comment on this.
Oh well. Here's one more!
Funny, I believe both of them
Funny, I believe both of them, what a pathetic story, however. The gentleman's account is almost photographically accurate, so I believe his account, but I think it is also unnecessary to talk to a stranger about their weight. Interesting though on the T etiquette.
I am not huge but a middle-aged to aging 6 foot man. I never sit down on the empty middle seat if the two seats surrounding it are occupied because I am too big. However, if someone is sitting in the middle seat and the two seats on either side of the person is empty, I sit down on one of them, assuming the person will slide over to the empty seat, leving an empty seat between us. I don't consider myself rude doing this, but please correct me if you feel that is incorrect.
I get on and off at the end of the line when the train is usually less than half full. I see people put bags on empty seats next to them or sit in the middle as if they expect the car will not fill up, and it always does.
Rudeness is not exclusive
"would a man say such a thing to another man? Would a woman say such a thing to a man? "
Well, uh, YES they would. I don't know what makes "Alison" think this kind of rudeness is exclusive to males saying it to females. I've heard women calling men "chubbo", among other things. And just today I overheard a young woman on the T speaking into her cell phone "he'd be alright if it wasn't for his hairline..." Granted, she wasn't saying it to someone's face, but she said it. And a hairline isn't something that can be helped. Weight can be controlled in most circumstances.
At some point the concept of
At some point the concept of white male privilege turned into a misguided believe that everyone on Earth is really really nice to white guys, all the time, no matter what.
Is bald-shaming a thing?
If it is Tumblr doesn't seem very interested in it, and Tumblr is interest in all kinds of shaming
Well UHub is the home of
Neighborhood-shaming (Southie) and Transportation-Shaming (cars)....
you're comparing apples and helicopters
after all, southie is home to a good many of island mentality and has played host to more than its fair share of isms and phobias in recent memory. And cars played a huge role in irrevocably altering the american landscape and eviscerating city and country alike.
What do you have on bald people?
Bald shaming
"Is bald-shaming a thing?"
It most assuredly is. A woman where I work was mad at the boss for basically being a jerk and she said (out of his earshot of course) "that bald headed bastard!". Now I'm sure the reason she was annoyed with him is because he is a dick and a terrible boss, not because he is follicle challenged. Likewise, I'm sure the guy on the T was more annoyed with the fat woman because she was an obnoxious jerk rather than the fact that she's a fatso. Although I have to wonder what the mad woman at work would have shouted about the dickhead boss if he had looked like Brad Pitt.
He's luck the trashy bit*h didn't stab him
http://www.universalhub.com/crime/20140110/police-allegedly-loud-rappers...
Bet that really hit home.
This is essentially the choice all fat people must make. Be nice or lose weight... Sadly, being nice doesn't blind people to your weight.... Sometimes it just makes them meaner.
Well
Would it have been better if he made fun of her haircut? Her clothes? Whether she wore glasses? The guy was pissed she was acting like an a-hole, he probably looked at her and saw she was overweight, and that's the first insult that popped into his head. I'd guess if you asked him today, he probably regrets it, but I can't say I wouldn't do the same thing of someone was purposely trying to antagonize me. I know I've called my brother a fatass a few times in his life when he's made me angry.
It's more than that.
It's not just that her size was a convenient insult to grab: her size was core to her offense in that, according to his version of the story, she sat on people.
Just making an observation
I have just as much if not more potential to be as mean as the next guy.... Making excuses for it doesn't make the world a kinder place.
One is not like the other
Shaming someone because of their religion.
Shaming someone because of their race.
Shaming someone because of their sexual orientation.
Shaming someone because of their weight.
One is not like the other: one pertains to behavior, the others pertain to essence.
It's entirely appropriate for someone who fails to manage his or her caloric intake, or who is addicted to nicotine or opiates, or who is a drinking alcoholic, to feel a certain amount of shame over the self-destructive behavior in which they engage. It is never appropriate for anyone to feel shame over his or her race, religion, or sexual orientation.
With that said, deliberately shaming a stranger over any of these, is obnoxious, rude, and uncouth. Responding rudely to rude behavior is never a good idea.
There's a fair amount of research
Showing that addiction, weight, etc. is less of a personal moral failure and more physiological/ neurological, or "essence".... Certainly as much or more than religion. We can't shame the Phelps clan for their religion?
No, we can't shame the Phelps clan for their religion
only for their behavior.
Religion is entirely internal, and invisible to the outside observer.
I see what you did there
You turned religion into spirituality to make a point. Nice move
Well, two
Religion is a choice.
It must also be nice to be perfect and therefore in just the right place to judge what you feel to be others' failures.
I'm not perfect
In fact, I'm overweight. And duly ashamed of it.
Shaming?
Is this new lexicon? Shaming means insulting?
If someone sits on my lap on the T. (has happened more than twice) and I say, "Excuse me Gigantor, I actually need that leg to WALK on when we get where I'm going. Is you're ass numb? You don't feel my leg under it? You also didn't see me sitting in the exact spot you put your ass? REALLY? How about get up and go sit somewhere where you FIT?"
I wish I had known I was shaming this guy. I mean I still would have said exactly what I said the way I said it but then I could have said,
"Now you've been SHAMED! So Don't sit on people and you won't BE shamed!"
That would have been great. By the way. I was texting and walked into a lady who called me a dickhead. I didn't feel shamed. I felt like a dickhead.
Oh well.
When did this whole ___
When did this whole ___-shaming thing start? Its like insrt *blank* here and you're not allowed to comment on it. Shame is a part of life. Its how you better yourself. Its motivation.
Hey
Don't try and shame my _____-shaming agenda.
Wrong
Shame is not a necessary part of life, and shaming other isn't "motivation" but social control.
See also: BULLYING
Clearly its not "social
Clearly its not "social control" if she's still fat. Or maybe she has superpowers that allow her to still be fat despite the overwhelming "social controls" of society.
We need some sort of Godwin's Law for the word "bullying"
Shame is not the same as BULLYING. I know that it's really trendy to use the words bullying and bully but they're not even close to being the same
Shame is feeling bad about yourself after you stole a cookie from a child while distracting him with a new Lego figurine.
Bullying is what happened to my sweet, brilliant, beautiful, autistic four year old nephew at his old school. Bullying is the reason he's in counseling and had to change schools.
In other words
The difference between name calling and belittling an individual who doesn't understand how to conform to social norms for behavior being bullying or not depends on whether you are Nancy's relative.
Okay.
So it was therefore not bullying when my autistic brother was bullied mercilessly because he looked and acted funny because because he was a weirdo freak and shaming is acceptable when it isn't Nancy's nephew.
Got it.
Whoosh!
That's the sound of my point going right over your head. If I rewrite my post to be entirely in the 3rd person or in the 1st person would that make you feel better? I like to think that most people here read my post and realized that those were merely examples of the very big difference between shame and bullying.
I wasn't saying that bullying is limited to my nephew. You read it that way.
Finally - some good discourse!
The original poster (which went viral to several online sites) really seems to be projecting (I also think she is one of the anons here) - it went from defending a woman who had been verbally assaulted by someone she then torn down this person via curse and generalization. Her follow up post to the rebuttal falls apart, talks about 'white guy entitlement' and fat shaming. I'm not saying she is a heavy non white person, but the tone of her posts are much more about her, than the woman 'insulted' or the guy who did it. It speaks volumes.
For what it is worth, as someone who rides the T every day (and has for two decades) I've heard people tell others to 'get the Hell out of the way!" or 'move their lard ass!' - these were usually women yelling at other people. Now, I could list a few incidents of race, age, etc, however, but the rudeness came in all shapes and sizes.
The real jerk is the poster, who got up on her high horse and decided to tear someone down on the Internet, and then obviously sent it around to sites that would sensationalize it, giving her attention.
Rude responding with Rude is not a great idea I agree, but turning into a whole anti man / anti white / fat is beautiful this guy deservers to die, is really wrong, and honestly, CL should remove her post.
It was relevant....
Surprised that no one mentioned that her size was relevant to the fact that she was squishing those around her. The fact that she was too big for the space available made the comment more than just a dig at her shape.
Wow, false equivalency
The ladies response to the response is the worst, most enraging part of this entire thing. So this woman can be a complete and total asshole, and you can't call her fat? Pointing out that she's overweight is the same thing as making a racist remark? Uh, no. It's not. It's not even close to the same thing.
Being overweight is something that is preventable, and, frankly, should be prevented. It's something that should be judged in the same manner as smoking or drinking to excess. You'd have no problem with giving someone shit about choosing to ruin their health by smoking, why can't you do the same when someone is of an unhealthy weight?
FURTHER, pointing out that someone is overweight is not even in the same ball park as making a racial slur, a homophobic slur or making insensitive statements about someone being disabled. The difference here is that you have no choice what race you are, what your sexual orientation is or whether or not your disabled. You do have the ability to not be overweight. And if you're being a jackass, AND you're overweight, don't be surprised when someone points out the fact that you're an overweight jackass.
Rant, over.
You have much to learn in kindergarten and church
Yes, and yes.
Please report to your local pre-K and K for more instruction on appropriate behavior.
Respectfully,
Respectfully, you're incorrect.
If someone is being an asshole, they should be called an asshole. If they're going out of their way to bother you and make you uncomfortable, you have every right to do the same.
Also, enough with this BS. Being overweight isn't the same thing as being African American, homosexual or disabled. It's not even close. Please tell me what kindergarten you went to that taught you that so I can make sure I never send my children there. Thanks.
Obesity is an epidemic in this country. It costs tax payers BILLIONS in heath care costs every year because people choose not to take care of themselves and maintain a healthy lifestyle and weight. It is literally the exact same thing as choosing to smoke cigarettes. You're choosing to do something that is provably unhealthy. Can you be addicted to food? Sure. Is it hard to not eat whatever the F you want? You bet. But you can also be addicted to nicotine, and it's pretty god damn hard to stop smoking too.
So please, stop pretending that being overweight is some sort of unassailable affliction. It isn't. It is literally a choice you make EVERY DAY to not be concerned about your health and well being. Period. And one of the biggest problems for doctors is that, when they tell their patients they're too fat, people like you and this bleeding heart writing these posts accuse them of "fat shaming." If you are overweight it is unhealthy. This is not a debatable point. Nearly every person on planet earth has the ability to NOT be overweight. That is also not a debatable point.
So please stop pretending that being overweight is the same as being of a certain race or sexual orientation. It's not, and to argue otherwise is ignorant.
So -- you can tell by a glance...
... whether someone is seriously overweight due to "self-indulgence" or due to some medical condition. If the answer is no, then the charitable way to handle things (even if unwarranted in a particular case) is "don't blame". (Or is dumping on others so satisfying that you wouldn't want to give it up).
Personal responsibility is a thing of the past
"So-- you can tell by a glance whether someone is seriously overweight due to 'self-indulgence' or due to some medical condition."
I was wondering when that old saw would come up. I would say it's a safe bet that 98% of the seriously overweight people one might see on the T are that way from their own unhealthy habits, rather than the small percent that have an actual medical condition. But that's the problem now. There is no PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY at all anymore. Where did that go? Eat too much? You've got a "medical condition". Drink too much? You've got a "disease". You're a big jerk? You are "socially impeded" or have "social anxiety". At some point people have to take responsibility for their actions.
Even if it's only 2 percent...
... (which I suspect is way too low) can YOU tell which two percent of overweight people are overweight due to factors legitimately beyond their control (even by YOUR definition)? If not....
Belittling strangers
is pretty much never appropriate, unless you're specifically criticizing a behavior that is specifically impinging on your life. And no, someone else's over-eating, or substance abuse problem, doesn't specifically impinge on you in the way that, say, forcing oneself into a space where one doesn't fit, or stealing your iPhone to feed a drug habit does.
With that said, the proportion of fat people who are fat due to a medical condition is just vanishingly small to the point of statistical insignificance.
Have any citation....
> the proportion of fat people who are fat due to a medical condition is just vanishingly small to the point of statistical insignificance.
Dr. Leponge?
Of course
http://www.health.harvard.edu/newsweek/Why-people-become-overweight.htm
http://www.cdc.gov/obesity/data/adult.html
http://www.straightdope.com/columns/read/2958/do-fat-people-get-that-way...
Sorry
These show that the percent is NOT "vanishingly small". ;~} (Unless you have a very loose definition of "vanishingly small").
Look at the historical trend
Obesity was pretty scarce 50 years ago. So explanations resting solely on inevitable genetics don't pass muster, unless you posit that our genetic makeup has changed significantly in two generations. And there's no particular evidence that the prevalence of disease conditions that could lead to obesity has vastly increased, which leaves behavior as an explanation that fits the observable data.
Now, if you want to define overeating as a disease condition (not that far-fetched, since the latest edition of the DSM seems to define being really sad after the death of a loved one as a diagnosable disease condition), then of course you could argue that all obesity is the result of disease. But I don't think that's very useful.
You are missing my point
As long as there are SOME conditions where obesity is due to something other than "lack of willpower", a wise and kind person will not "judge" anyone based on their weightiness.
And a wiser (and kinder) person that I once warned. "Judge not, lest you be judged".
Of course Alison
aka TremendousHater, is absolved of all guilt from her vomit inducing judgment because she's a radical feminist social justice warrior.
No and No
and I say that as a woman who struggles with her weight.
How great that this story
How great that this story (and this thread) have all the worst aspects of no effort social justice in one place.
- Arrogant video game players
- movethefuckoverbro morons who think the way someone normally on the T is PATRIARCHY/OPPRESSION/something to do with men needing to air out genitals???? (surprised a picture wasn't included)
- fat acceptance lunatics that compare weight to race
The last is the root of the problem. I am sure she was waiting with baited breath to unleash her tumblr diatribe.
Everyone needs to #chillthehellout
And now for my next prediction...
My post from the first article
If only I could see Mega Millions numbers as clearly as I can see through Craigslist drama...
Spelling counts, gang
From today's CL post:
" Immediately the woman who caused all this carnage started balling. I have to assume you were the kind woman who looked in her early 30s came to console her."
Jesus, I hope he meant "bawling"
Thank You
Mr. Perfect!
I'm sorry
for my "can't-spell-a-four-letter-word"-shaming
You know what I hate?
Average has a real definition. If the woman didn't fit in a single MBTA seat, then she's not average. It's not a belief. It's a fact.
As for "body normativity", you know what I hate? Amusement parks. I love roller coasters, but I've allowed myself to get too out-of-shape to fit most of their harnesses (sad, but true). "I hate those bullies at the roller coaster manufacturers who make seats that reinforce body normativity so I can't have a good time!"
Do you realize how dumb that sounds? It's because it's dumb. Roller coasters, like MBTA seats, airplane seats, and most other public conveyances, are made to fit MOST people (in fact, I still fit in an MBTA seat without invading others' space). They have an inherent assumption of "body normativity" to maximize their usefulness to everyone as best they can.
That's just your
unearned BMI privilege talking.....
oh allison, i know this world is killing you......
but it's okay to judge someone by how they dress?
get bent you judgemental pig, you've made Boston worse for your craigslist rant.
What F&*(ing Utopian world do you people live in?
We're fat, we're skinny, we're short, we're tall, we're nice, we're mean. And most of all we're judgemental and have been for tens of thousands of years. I'm thankful that I don't live in a Utopian world where everyone looks and acts the same, what a boring world that would be.
Utopia
In most well-considered utopias, there exists communal sharing of resources, but in order to do so, each person has to perform their own roles in order to sustain the well-being of the society. Thomas More's Utopia, drawing from Plato's Republic, contains such a system. Such a system doesn't lend itself to everyone looking nor acting alike otherwise each person would be ultimately responsible for all of their life-sustaining roles. That would be more of a libertarian's utopia, however even in that extreme, not everyone will be as successful at sustaining themselves and the end result will be different looks and acts by every person you would see.
* - I actually took an advanced English/History course in college on the study of utopias.
Well then....
that was money well spent. You got to use your college course in a real life experience.......responding to a blog post.
Link to original poster's rebuttal to guy's story updated
Seems her reply was "flagged," which is Craigslistese for being put on the train to deletionville.
Who's on this train?
Are you allowed to call someone fat when getting off at deletionville? What if they did something annoying first?
too bad
I think it's possible the whole thing is a work of chain-fiction.
Part III, this time as fiction
Here's yet another account of the incident, only this time by somebody who wasn't actually on the train, he just felt like getting all Stuart Smalley with the crying woman.
CL, CC, 911, whatever works!
I have faith that Bostonians wouldn't allow something like this to happen on the MBTA:
http://www.nj.com/south/index.ssf/2014/03/daughter_of_philadelphia_mom_n...
since this Orange Line story has received so much attention.
Two wrongs don't make a right
Two wrongs don't make a right, but it certainly makes a difference that the guy was not unprovoked in what he said. It doesn't make what he said right, but if the woman was being an inconsiderate jerk on the train first, then I can understand why someone might say some unkind words to her.
There are at least two sides to every story, and reality is somewhere in between them.
Things I've learned here
1. It is okay to rudely comment on someone's appearance because Obesity Epidemic is Health Issue.
2. Shaming of weirdos who act oddly/antisocially and look weird/don't conform is not only okay but important because shaming makes them change! Unless, of course, they happen to be the weird acting, weird looking nephew of a certain poster, because he's autistic and that makes it bullying and you should just know that! Because!
3. If someone is being a rude asshole, that makes it open season for everyone to be a rude asshole because that gives them a right to be a rude asshole!
Sigh.
What I've learned here
Attention starved "activists" will twist any situation into a publicity stunt despite their complete lies/hypocrisy and having their agenda rejected by the overwhelming majority of society. But hey, when you can't get a real job with real promotions then you have to settle for self-promotion.
Meanwhile over at BU, I haven't heard a peep out of the "Humanists" and other marginalized wackos about the disgusting man-shaming over at the DFP. I guess equality isn't really their agenda, it's incessant whining and special rights for the chosen few.
http://dailyfreepress.com/2014/03/17/hofberg-workout-shoes-and-jeans/
Interesting
You do realize that you sound like a completely obsessed creep, right?
Obsessed?
Why don't you post a million more bike related comments?
#3 is completely correct. If
#3 is completely correct. If someone is being a rude asshole, then yes, it is open season for everyone to be a rude asshole to them. Based on this side of the story, she clearly was being rude on purpose. So she deserves to be treated with the same lack of respect that she gives others. Not sure why you think that is wrong.
Please explain
Why do people believe that these "Opposing Viewpoints" are describing the same events and people? Every orange line train has like six cars.
So she deserved it
Since it sounds like she was being a jerk, she deserved to be treated that way. Fat shaming does not cross the line any more than her increasing the volume of her game and elbowing people does. I really don't understand why people are claiming his response somehow went too far. If someone is purposely trying to piss off the people around them, then they should be able to handle it when someone dishes it back at them.
Dude was a chickenshit all the same
Saying his piece only when he knew he was about to exit. If what he said was legit, why not say it earlier, then stick around to defend the point? He knew it was a dickish thing to say regardless of provocation.