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Maybe now we can have a moratorium on guys proposing to girlfriends at sportsball matches?

Michael J. Nichols reports:

It finally happened! @RedSox game 'proposal in front of Bud Light logo' got awkward quickly. She wasn't excited & Sox cut to random shot!

But not before it became obvious they were arguing.

RealMeMP reacts:

Score that one an error.

Old King Clancy adds:

The proper way to reject a Fenway proposal is by throwing pizza at them.

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who truly believes the "proposals gone wrong" (in front of a sponsor's sign no less) are all fake?

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Possibly?

There are millions of women who regard a ballgame proposal as a literal nightmare and would walk away furious. Some of those will happen in front of sponsor logos.

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absolutely on all counts

seeing a conspiracy because something in a ballpark, of all places, happened adjacent to a sponsor logo...lol

thats like wondering if its a coincidence that theres frequently clouds in all those fancy sunset photos

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Is there ANYWHERE in a sports stadium these days where one is not within sight of a sponsor's logo?

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but people also think the earth is flat & that global warming isn't happening

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Seems like one or two of these fake proposals makes the news per year.

Just googled 'fake marriage proposal sports arena' and came up with a bunch of fakes.

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I was there and this guy blew it. Didn't get down on one knee, didn't appear to actually say anything, just waited for her to read the text on the scoreboard, which she hadn't noticed.

Once she realized what was going on she got more animated, didn't immediately embrace him, and they cut away.

Parents tell your children: Always say yes to a public proposal and if your answer is really no tell them as soon as it's not in public anymore. This will work out aprox. 500% better in the end.

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you should publicly say yes to a proposal and then appear to renege on that because it will ultimately work out better for the person that probably didn't bother thinking through their idiotic proposal idea (and how it may affect their would-be life partner- definitely a person i'd want to marry right there)

and since it is mostly women that get proposed to in this fashion, you might as well write "tell your girls" instead of "tell your children"

parents: tell your children not to be involved with somebody that wants to pull off silly stunts like this. unless you like such a spectacle, in which case this obviously doesn't apply.

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Tell your children to consent to marrying someone they don't want to marry, just to protect their feelings.

Do us a favor and don't have kids.

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It was a really weak proposal. Guy didn't appear to have figured out his girlfriend's opinions on either commitment to him or public spectacle.

Saying yes in public and no later works out 500% better for who, exactly? Not for the person who was blindsided and now just wants to get a cab home.

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If she had been sure wanted to marry him, it wouldn't have mattered whether he got down on one knee.

Any public proposal where you aren't sure of the answer is "weak," because you're either pressuring the other person unfairly, setting yourself up for public embarrassment, or both.

The person who is pushy or selfish enough to put that moment of what should be a private decision in front of thousands of people is the one who deserves any resulting embarrassment. Why should the woman say yes and then spend the next days or weeks or year explaining to her friends and family that she isn't actually engaged, she just wanted to protect this guy's ego?

If two people have agreed they are going to get married and both want that public "proposal," more power to them and the TV cameras. But this guy sounds more like he's assuming that whether to get married is entirely his decision, and that no woman he wants to marry could possibly say "no" or "I need some time to think about that."

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Parents tell your children: Never do a public proposal.

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Parents tell your children: Never do a public proposal.

Teach your kids that giant life decisions need to be negotiated.

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i can p much guarantee if the story was that she said yes, and then "changed her mind" later, you would have recommended that parents just teach their daughters to "just say no" to begin with and make things 500% easier for everybody

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If someone is pressuring your kid for sex you should tell them to just give in and then later they can explain that they really just aren't that into them.

Okay, that may be a bit of hyperbolic bluster but the point is that I don't think it's a good idea to "train" kids to submit to others who have such an obvious lack of concern for them.

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And definitely never consent to sex in front of a Budweiser logo.

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Or tell your children that they shouldn't make public proposals that aren't discussed beforehand to make sure that both people in the relationship are on the same page, and the one being proposed to is cool with it happening in public.

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I go 5-6 Red Sox games a season, including this past Saturday, and pretty much every time there's been a proposal in front of that little sign, area, whatever. I personally would never propose at a sporting event, as much as sports run this city.

Here's a guy getting the cold shoulder at a Rangers game in New York:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e4AlDQT5sM8

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pressure. Who wants to be asked to make a major life decision in front of 35000 people?

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I dunno, unless it's been only a month or so since you started dating - in which case the answer should definitely be a NO, two adults being in a relationship for a while should be ready to answer that question.

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The adult who wants to make a surprise of it should think about that more than once.

Also, why is it all up to a single question "popped" in a dramatic matter? We discussed marriage for a while, and then decided together to proceed. None of this "one person asks" stuff - you don't buy a house together like that!

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well babe we met on new years eve and i just filed my quarterly expense report and it reminded me that perhaps we should consider formalizing our union?

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Just glancing at that link to twitter is totally depressing. It's just a bunch of people finding joy in someone else's unhappiness. It truly is the network of Trump.

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Had to squeeze one in there somewhere.....

Adam, can we add #Trumpland to this one?

Thanks

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Wasn't trying for one there but nicely done.

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Awkward moment at a sports game, you say? I'll just leave this here (nice save!):

https://youtu.be/rgrmqJk7g6I?t=5s

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I'm curious for how long this has been a thing. Does it extend beyond when games were televised? Is it so recent that it doesn't extend beyond the past decade or so?

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Public proposals at sporting events go back to ancient roman times. After slaughtering everyone else in the arena, the winning gladiator was permitted to either publicly propose to his lady, receive a sack of salt, or trade it all for whatever was inside the mystery box. If the lady said no to the proposal, the gladiator would be fed to a tiger. Similarly, the mystery box also contained a tiger. The sack of salt was the way to go. We celebrate this tradition today by eating salty food instead of proposing to women in stadiums.

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...around the time of the pink hats and dudebros.

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We live in a social media time when everything has got to be big, flashy, materialistic and as public as possible. All subtle gestures and taste have gone out the window. Wedding proposals have appeared on the huge electronic stock exchange billboard in New York (it's not cheap). They've been announced by pilots over the PA in airplanes. What happened to a private romantic moment between two people? Now all of Manhattan (and Fenway Park) apparently has to be dragged into it.

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Was he friend-zoned?

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This proposal thing is number four on the things that after years in the US I still cannot comprehend, following closely: Public education system, passion for baseball and the two party system elections.

It brings to my untrained eyes so many connotations of days when man-woman relationship where built in very unequal terms. And don't get me started on the mindblowing-sillines of the engagement ring!

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1) Where are you from?
2) What is the alternative to asking someone to marry you?

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Then discuss it like adults.

Don't pop a question.

This isn't a prom invite.

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Let's remove all fun from life. No more romantic gestures allowed.

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of the late Dean Vernon Wormer.

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It is a legal contract with far-reaching implications.

Romance? Save it for your anniversary.

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Huge life decisions are about making good decisions ... about getting it right. Good decisions aren't made like this.

The wedding is about fun and romance. The Honeymoon is about fun and romance. The anniversaries are about fun and romance. Birthdays and births and the life you share in the future is about fun and romance ... IF ... if you discuss the decision thoroughly and make a good one.

If you make a good decision about getting married, there's plenty of fun and romance ahead.

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Why do surprise and carefully considered decision have to be mutually exclusive? My husband and I were very much on the same page and he still managed to surprise me with asking because, while I knew it was coming, I didn't know when.

Clearly not what happened at Fenway but not every surprise proposal is irresponsible.

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Even worse for the guy is because it costs like $400 to do a scoreboard proposal at Fenway.

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with an engagement ring.

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for precisely this reason. Baseball teams are superstitious and it makes them look bad. If I am not mistaken , the Yankees, for example, stopped it some time ago.

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So funny how this news appeared in the Globe about an hour after you posted it here. This seems to happen all the time. I hope you have a security guard at your house.

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I live in a part of town that nobody from the Globe would know how to get to.

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Here is a handy rule for proposing in a sports stadium. Start off by making sure the subject had been broached at some point. The other person has to be twice as much into the sport as you are. The person must enjoy excitement and being the center of attention.

If you are looking to marry someone all three of these need to be addressed before trying to propose to them in a stadium setting.

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1. Don't

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Some people like to do it... and gasp some women like to be proposed to this way. I think it is silly but who am I to judge anyone else.

My suggestion greatly reduces the chances of getting a no and greatly increases the chances that the other person would appreciate the thought.

Imagine if you were a huge sports fan and your partner was not quite there with you. You are loud , vocal always trying to pull them out of their shell. You know you want to marry this person , it is only a matter of time, you have discussed it so many times. Then one day you are at the ball park with them and out of the blue bam you get that public proposal!

Another easy way to tell if someone would be into it is seeing how they react to the proposals others have made. Clearly someone proposing to you should do it in a very intimate way. Someone proposing to me still should not do it in a stadium but maybe at a restaurant.

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