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Feds: Former Northeastern coach tried to scam women athletes into sending him nude photos - besides the ones he'd already lifted off their phones at track meets
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Waite or Waithe?
I see both spellings in various parts of this post.
Waithe
Thanks, fixed.
Not another coach
At this point not sure which is worse: trusting your child with a priest or a youth athletics enthusiast?
Maybe if we had some sort of list, perhaps a database, where one could query the current status of individuals whose calling is to work with children in a sports setting and determine whether the person in question meets the public trustworthiness standard or is just another weirdo focused on catfishing the very people they're trying to mentor.
Sad to say, if I have kids
Sad to say, if I have kids there's no way I'll trust them to be alone with any priest (not that I'm a church goer to begin with) or athletics person, or any adult that I didn't have a very long and trusted relationship with. And there'd be lots of educating the kids on not implicitly trusting adults, privacy, bodily autonomy, etc.
These weren't children
It doesn't make the conduct any less wrong, but the fact that these weren't children means that you need to take a somewhat different approach to both prevention and response.
The arithmetic is important here
Wasn't the finding that priests were no more or less likely than anyone else to be pedophiles; that the real crime was the church actively protecting the pedophile priests rather than ridding the priesthood of them?
glad this guy got caught,
glad this guy got caught, though sad that this happened in the first place.
that said, and this is by no means a knock against any of the women he did this to -- if you're going to have risque photos or videos on your phone, at least put them in a hidden folder.
there are far too many creeps and tech savvy perverts who can get into your phone, make it a little harder for them to find what they are looking for. not a victim blaming idea, just practical advice. i've had too many female friends compromised by leaked or stolen photos, which is ridiculous and fucked up.
c'mon
but it is victim blaming, we should be looking for reasons why these men jump incredible hurdles to victimize these women. This coach spent a great amount of time to exploit them and break into their personal devices, that's the problem, not the victims.
If you are going to have windows
Nail them shut with plywood.
Or don't be naked at home.
If this guy were a peeping tom, would you say these things?
Any and every bit of victim blaming is really just another excuse for atrocious predatory behavior.
the point is not that these
the point is not that these women invited these creeps in by having nudes on their phones, it is that criminals who are trying to steal this type of material are everywhere.
protecting personal items, whether it be banking information, medical records, or videos of last nights tinder hook up, should be paramount in the shitty world we live in.
i am of the frame of mind that our digital world is constantly under attack, so vigilance is something none of us can afford to slack on. shit, laptop companies are now incorporating physical camera covers into their devices because the risk of having a webcam highjacked is so real.
Victim blaming is bad
But are we really not going to talk about people falling for the “help me get your nudes off the interwebs by sending me more nudes” scam? Come on, man.
You're not wrong
but I'm not sure the technology is versatile enough.
At home you can just draw the curtains when you change clothes. Do phones have anything like a way to mark a photo as "sensitive" so that it has to be individually unlocked?
Because if they don't, it's an uphill battle to "do the safe thing".
This is victim blaming
Be better. Stop teaching women they need to protect themselves. Teach men to stop being creeps.
Dogs are stupid
Humans are inherently untrustworthy.
Oops
Wrong thread.